I was very saddened to hear about Ruby. She was obviously a great inspiration to you and Sissy. And I'm glad you made it by yesterday for carnaval because you inspired us. -Chris
...My heart aches for your loss of Ruby. My son Lucien died in 1992; he was 10. He had battled heart disease all his life. I think of him every day. Lucien now has a new brother and sister and, in July, God willing, another baby brother, all in addition to his original sister, now 20, who knew him so well in life.
The river keeps flowing.
The pain you feel today will subside, but never truly go away. And the memories, too few though they may be, also, truly, last forever. And you will be amazed how many layers of "tissue" Ruby will add to your character as you and her mom grow further into life. Their (the kids we lose) gift to us is incalcuable. When you begin to laugh and feel joy again, as I assure you you will. She'll not be far away. Even as she warms a spot for you on the other side.
Meanwhile, in this world, people you don't even know, are thinking strong thoughts for you. Hang tough, bro.
David
...Dear Bagus,
Today is the last day of the Wood-Monkey year in the Tibetan calendar. I went to Boudhnath Stupa tonight (the largest Buddhist Stupa in the world and the centerpoint of the Tibetan community in Kathmandu) and lit 108 butter lamps in Ruby's honor. As we welcome in the new Wood-Bird year tomorrow, you and Ruby and Sissy will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Remember that you are loved and are love and have immense wisdom and strength. These qualities, whether you like it or not, will grow out of this pain and grief. It is through knowing pain that you yourself become a healer, and this pain becomes your gift to others. Let her free like a butterfly... The light that is Ruby is a thread to emptiness, nothingness, to that very place your own soul came from, the very place your own soul may return to. Let her become your angel, your guardian, your helper, a door to that other place. The heart sutra says, form is emptiness, emptiness is form. Ruby found form in this world for a short while but now she has returned with love to the emptiness. Heal your heart - fill it with love, heal it with breath.
With love and prayers,
Nina
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The exchange of love you've all had will never be lost - Sex Ed Mom.
...Hello Bagus:
I can't imagine your sorrow. If there is anything you need, please contact me.
Lee Reuter